An ‘Aggressive Love for Life’ Regardless of Life’s Challenges
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We are all the time doing things we know are not going to work out. Life doesn’t work out on the ‘all or nothing’ basis. Whether it’s in our family life, our careers, or our personal life, we all have different options.
I am not one to believe in the whole-hearted pursuit of love. In fact, I believe in the one-sided pursuit of love. The more romantic way of thinking. The cliché way of thinking. I believe in being committed to one particular person, and not letting that person or the relationship go.
As the year comes to a close, I am not one to give up on those people who do not make the cut to being at the top. I would hope that I don’t. I want to support my friends, colleagues, and loved ones who deserve that attention, support, and care. But I also believe that the best outcome of any relationship is when two people are completely committed to each other.
But in spite of my beliefs, and despite my experience in the dating world, I also do not see how love can conquer all adversity. For instance, I know a woman who has been married for a long time and has a great personal life, but she still has a boyfriend who is quite distant when they are alone, and he tells her that his priority is his career.
I know another woman who is married for over 22 years, who has a great personal life, but she has been so good to her husband in times of need and is always so supportive and nice to him when he is in need, that the only way she can find happiness is to be with her husband.
I know a woman who is happily married to a man who is in the military for 14 years, who has two children and she is very supportive of them, and she is very attentive to their needs. Because when she is with her children, she forgets all her troubles, her husband tells me, and that is why she is so happy.
I know other women who have great careers and they are happy, but they have a boyfriend who is always too involved with his career. And I know other women who are married to men who are in the military for 14